Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Toxic People 10 Ways of Dealing with People who Make Your Life Miserable

This was a very excellent book about how to identify and deal with the toxic people in your life. I am not going to discuss every detail of the book because it had a lot of good stuff but it's too long and I don't feel like discussing it.
     The book included a section with a quiz in determining if someone is toxic to you. Now, what is toxic to one person may not be toxic to another person. The book pointed out how to identify our personal triggers to a toxic person. Toxic behavior and what makes a toxic person act the way they do was discussed.

     There are 30 different  types of toxic people.

  1.  Cut-You Downer 
  2.  Chatterbox
  3.  Self-Destroyer 
  4.  Runner
  5.  Silent but Deadly Volcano 
  6.  Gossip 
  7. Angry Pugilist 
  8. Gloom and Doom Victim
  9. Smiling 2-Faced Backstabber 
  10. Wishy Washy Wimp
  11.  Opportunistic User
  12.  Bitchy, Bossy Bully
  13.  Jokester 
  14.  Unconsious Social Klutz
  15.  Mental Case 
  16.  Bullshitting Liar 
  17.  Meddler
  18.  Penny-Pinching Miser 
  19.  Fanatic 
  20.  Me, Myself, and I Narcissist 
  21.  Eddie Haskell 
  22.  Self-Righteous Priss
  23.  Snotty Snob
  24.  Competitor 
  25.  Control Freak 
  26.  Accusing Critic 
  27.  Arogant Know-It-All 
  28.  Emotional Refriderator 
  29.  Skeptical Paranoid
  30.  Instigator 

Then book then talked about the different techniques to use when confronted these types of toxic people and when to use the techniques in the proper setting. Be careful of where you use certain techniques. Sometimes taking things with a grain of salt is better than losing a job over.

There are 10 techniques.

  1.  Tension-Blowout 
  2.  Humor 
  3.  Stop-the-Thought 
  4.  Mirror 
  5.  Direct-Confront 
  6.  Calm Questioning 
  7.  Give-Them-Hell-and Yell
  8.  GiveThem-Love-and-Kindness 
  9.  Vicarious-Fantasy 
  10.  Unplug

I would recommend this book to anyone but especially to anyone who is a toxic realtionship. I would recommend utilizing the unlpug technique when they have ruined your life, are abusive, or someone who is not supportive of you or your dreams. It's better to be alone than to be with someone who don't really care about you.









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